Many girls have dreamed about their wedding their entire lives. Others have been planning their big days since the moment they met 'the one'. Still others start planning the day after they get the ring.There are others who find themselves overwhelmed with the entire process.
I would put myself somewhere between the planners the day after they get the ring and the overwhelmed. I love my fiancé more than I ever thought possible and I can't wait to be his wife. I know that I want to get married on the beach, and that I want to share the day with my family; beyond that I did not have any preconceived notions about what I wanted my wedding to be.
So, when we entered the actual planning phase of our wedding, I found myself a little in the dark. It was then that I decided that I had to just trust my gut and above all else stay organized. I created files and a rolodex with everything I would need. I organized images on my computer and created countless lists. I was ready for anything!
Or so I thought.....
Life is nothing if not a challenge, and every so often things pop up in our lives that we just can't avoid.
Our invitations had gone out, guests had RSVP'd, people had put their deposits down on their rooms and were planning to fly to Mexico for our September 23rd wedding. There was still a lot of planning to do, but the date had been set and we were moving in the right direction. It was at this point that life decided to throw us a curve ball.
Due to family situation with my grandma that caused financial stress we were faced with having to move our wedding date. I am sure most brides faced with this situation would panic.
I felt every emotion from anger, to panic and shame. What were people going to say? How am I going to explain this to everyone?
It took almost 24 hours before I was able to wrap my head around the idea that I would not be getting married in September. It was in that moment that I was glad of my wedding organization. I was able to take a step back and look at the situation for what it was, a problem to be solved. We needed to move the date out, that was clear, but when?
Also, to save costs moving resorts was something else we needed to consider. The good news was, that the wonderful wedding department at El Dorado was able to help us find out some other dates that would work for us. Our September wedding is now scheduled for November 11th. It was weeks after we had originally planned, but at the end of the day I am still going to get to marry my best friend this year and that is all that really matters.
As I am writing this we have not yet let all of our guests know the situation since we are still ironing out the details, but I already feel better having a new plan.
The point of this post? To let every bride or groom that reads this know that things happen that may make your special day less than perfect. Life is messy! and that is okay! Panic! Cry! and then take a deep breath. As long as you end up married to the one you love then everything else can be handled.
PS> I will be posting about the process of dealing with the unexpected. Step 1: If you need to change your destination wedding date contact your Travel Agent ASAP.